Friends and Arguments

Recently, I went through a really tough time with one of my friends.  Maybe you can relate?  Just so you know, I’ve changed all of the names in my recap.

Basically, my friend Kelsi sent me a message saying I was annoying as well as some other hurtful comments and she didn’t want to be my friend anymore.  I was completely shocked and totally devastated.

So, I called up one of my best friends, Jane, to tell her about it. I read her the message, sobbing the entire time. She was in shock. She told me she couldn’t stand to see me this torn up and upset. Jane said she was going to ask Kelsi what she was thinking when she said that horrible thing to me.

I didn’t believe that Kelsi didn’t think we had ever been friends! I knew she had been my friend for the last three years. Someone who was faking to be your friend doesn’t invite you to spend the night at her house on a school night and beg her mom to let you stay. A fake friend doesn’t hang out with you all day at Six Flags then ask if she can spend the night at your house over the weekend because she had that much fun with you.

I decided to talk to my parents and I realized this: Kelsi wasn’t a true friend. And, crying wouldn’t do anything to change that. I wasn’t going to change my entire self to win her back. I realized if this was Kelsi’s true self, then I didn’t want any thing to do with her. The best way to deal with something like this is to just move on. Sure, crying will help a little bit, but just moving on and having nothing to do with that person is the best way to handle this. I hope this doesn’t ever happen to you but if it does, you have the head start I needed to get move on with your life and not dwell on on someone like Kelsi.