Dating and Twilight: Is it Realistic for Girls?

Many of our Girls With Dreams team members are big fans of the Twilight Series. Some girls understand the difference between reality and fantasy and watch or read the Twilight Series for enjoyment. Other girls have a more difficult time sorting out how dating a Cullen compares to dating in the real world.

Recently, one of you sent a question to info@girlswithdreams.com about how the characters in Twilight are influencing your expectations. Here was part of the question:

“I’m in 8th grade and I’m fourteen. If you’ve ever seen Twilight Saga movies or watched Vampire Diaries, you will understand what I’m about to tell you. I want a boy to love me like the boys in those movies and shows and books. I had this idea about how my life would be and now I find out a boy like that doesn’t exist. Sometimes I feel like I don’t belong here on earth. I feel like I belong in a romance movie or novel.”

In response to her question, we sent her back lots of advice from other teens. We also talked more about dating and Twilight in this Girls With Dreams interview. In addition to this, here was one of the responses:

“I love all those books and shows, too. At your age, I watched movies such as a Walk to Remember and want that for myself. Honestly, life just isn’t like that and you will realize that as you get older. Especially at your age, guys don’t know how to love girls. I am 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. Our lives are far from perfect. You will find a guy who cares about you and loves you. Just give it time. And when you get that guy, don’t hold him up to expectations like Edward Cullen or Stefen. Those are unrealistic and your guy will be unique in his own way. Life isn’t about finding that guy. You’ll find him one day. Just be happy with how your life is now. Hang out with your friends or join a club you’re interested in. Don’t be shy; be outgoing and have FUN!”